Problems…always problems
Everyone has problems in life.
I still have to find a human being in my family, neighbourhood, workplace or amongst celebrities without problems of any sort. I can make this claim with confidence from what I hear, watch or read in the news. Even the most gifted and happy person has something hidden inside, like a silent monster wrapped around the soul.
What happened?
A small trauma in the early years can create a wound in your sub conscious, a wound that slowly but steadily grows and builds its nest in your brain. It’s a matter of magnitude, of the intensity of the experience that makes repercussions happen in adult life. In some cases this will cause depression and other illnesses where medical care is needed, in other occasions it will affect your behaviour and your beliefs. The brain is like a computer where the software is being installed and updated every day; during this process you can be infected by something like a virus. This will affect your performance, the way you think, the way you create your life.
So what?
Many will end up on a practitioner’s bed trying to find out what’s wrong and leaving hard earn money on those sofas, crying and feeling the pain of the experience when regressed to the time the negative event happened. Think that with all that money you might buy a dozen sofas and you won’t even feel the urge to cry when lying on them in the comfort of your house! But you have got a problem, don’t you? It’s absolutely legitimate then to ask if there is quick solution, relatively inexpensive and working most part of the times.
The answer is in a question.
If you don’t feel right inside, HOW do you came up feeling like that? What is the mechanism in your brain that triggers this state? That’s it. End of pain.
You are not asked anymore to remember, struggle and find out WHAT makes you suffer, just HOW you suffer, because in the very same moment you can be happy and joyful. You can change your state with a snap of fingers, the connection with whatever event in your brain can be erased alongside with the memory of it. It’s like to scratch or erase a paint you made but you don’t like anymore, all right, say, let’s change it.
NLP
I made it simple but this is the core of NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming, co-created by Richard Bandler and linguist John Grinder in the 1970s. To make it even more simple think that your brain mainly works through pictures and sounds, every event is recorded with reference to a voice, an image with or without colours, a sound of particular intensity. Negative and pleasant events are memorized with they own characteristics, and when you recall one of them these attributes will be projected in your brain, making you feel consequently.
But you can change everything, as soon as you know HOW you feel like that. What is the image in your mind like? There is sound? What kind of tone, pitch? You can then associate a different image, make it smaller, using different or no colours. Change the sound, make it funny (yes you can). With some practice the painful event will be differently perceived, because you changed the way is represented in your mind. When your brain will automatically try to recall it, different images, sounds, sensations will be projected and you will feel diverse sensations . Okay, take an event you label as painful, as for example your boss yelling at you. Not very nice right? Now change that image, make that picture in your mind with your boss dressed as a clown and put some funny music on it. Switch the old picture with the new one a couple of times, making the old one smaller and smaller every time and enlarging the new, completely different interpretation of the event. After a while, how do you feel? Surely better, I would not be surprised if you even start laughing at your boss!
Try it…
It works. Of course there are many techniques, more complex then this basic one, but is all based on changing how your brain perceives an event. Have some fun and try yourself. Remember, eradicate obscure mechanisms and traumas from your sub conscious can be extremely painful. It works in many cases, but it’s a long process.
Ask yourself two simple questions:
How do I feel in this moment?
[angry, frustrated ,sad, depressed...]
How do I feel like this?
Work on it. Leave the monsters in their nests, don’t look at them, they will disappear quicker than you think.
If you have any question or personal experience, please leave a comment.
“Think that with all that money you might buy a dozen sofas and you won’t even feel the urge to cry when lying on them in the comfort of your house! But you have got a problem, don’t you?”
This is funny! Man, I coulda’ had 12 sofas for that therapy!
Seriously, though, you’re right, the answer is in asking the right questions! This is the trick of it all. How do I ask the right question to solve this problem. And there ARE many therapies that do this. Another good one is THE WORK, where you ask yourself ‘Is it true?’ and then ‘can you absolutely know that it’s true?’ as the first two of four questions.
Once you know the questions you’ll ask, the next trick is to actually Remember to ask them!
Jessica, you are right, there many useful therapies. I wanted to put some enphasis, though, to the stereotype of therapy. In many cases you don’t need it, some useful techniques can be used by yourself, with an array of benefits.
Thank you for the comment:)
Elio thanks for the reminder. I have been through an emotional problems this week and I was in mental anguish over it. After reading your blog I asked myself, how do you feel? Once I did that, the why do you feel this way came to me. That problem departed. On with the rest of my life! Sometimes we forget our coping mechanisms and one sentence in a blog jolts that memory of how to handle the problem-a problem that I was needlessly stressing over.
how to get out the problem from our head?
Alifaru, NPL is a powerful method which yields incredible results if practiced in the right way. Try to re-read the post and follow the guidelines. If you want to know more, just ask
Elio
Feeling is really very important to us, especially when we know the law of attraction. otherwise, NLP is a great tool helping us getting good feelings.
I have written some posts in this niche, feel free to read them.
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