The Entangled Universe

Be sincere. Have you ever taken big risks in your life? Have you ever put everything on stake? Your job, relations, hard earned savings, your whole existence?

We build our area of confidence

The question can be posed more technically making reference to what is called area of confidence. The area of confidence is a safe zone you create all around yourself, where you think you are free of any danger of life, an invisible shield to everyday problems. It’s typical of human beings to create such a mind object, because we need security. We are basically lazy creatures, when we obtain what we consider enough to start a routine of surviving we stop and rest in this nest, timidly rising our head from time to time to watch our surroundings and going back as fast as we can. In this nest we are confident, we know that a very few things can hurt us. We live in this way for years, many for their whole life. We don’t like to take risks, if not for surviving. As we were hunters millennia ago, doing dangerous gambles with life to feed our bodies, we reached an age in history where we have everything we need without to risk what we consider our precious belongings.

This area of confidence can be so small at some point that we are forced to raise the shield and walk in the real world with its dangers. Many people in this condition will create an incredible life, with its lows and high, but nonetheless exciting and rewarding, their head will always be high, not in the nest hiding from everything. These persons are the less likely to succeed at the beginning, because under a social frame they are probably poor, not enough qualified, without skills. But part of them succeed, and they have a success many times larger than the average, middle class, college educated, American dream people. Because they were forced to adventure out, they constantly enlarge that area of confidence, which becomes so big that everything will be included on it, they won’t need to raise their protection.

A closet full of dreams

Normal average people –and this is my heritage, too have an invisible closet where they store all their dreams. Whatever they wish to do is evaluated under precise rules, criteria and subsequently validated or rejected. Big dreams are often rejected, because common sense advices so, when the risk is high is very easy to open that closet and store whatever you feel wonderful but dangerous. The problem is that you will not forget the content of this closet. It will be full of stuff, desires, project, ideas, wishes never fulfilled. Until someday, when you will open it for the last time, you will fill that you missed your life, your real life. It will be too late and you will only be able to mourn your failed opportunities.

If you can feel these emotions I am sure you will seriously start thinking to get out of your nest, of your area of confidence. Many lives have been reduced to pitiful existences for being afraid to raise that protective shield surrounding us. If you have a dream, a big dream, you should go for it, whatever it will cost to you, in terms of private life, public life, money, career, whatever.

Nothing is certain, when you feel you are safe and well protected, in truth you are not, it’s just an illusion. Fate can destroy everything just in a minute, why to wait an unfortunate event to escape from your golden prison? How many people fill in their closet and live an unhappy life, just for the illusion of safety and false protection?

Break the chain

Personally I can tell you I took many risks, although I was not forced to. They were really gambles. I left jobs that most part of people would keep for life, countries, relations. I went through financial crisis and prosperity. I took wrong decisions and good choices, but I will never regret my actions. I am reaching a point where, as I said, my area of confidence is getting so enlarged that I don’t worry anymore. I am not afraid of doing something just because is not “socially correct” or against common sense. I follow my spirit, I am free. Obviously every choice must be carefully planned and evaluated, but instead to apply a common criteria, you should decide what is best for you in term of your outcome. You and only you can decide what is best, the decision making process must be freed from any possible influence. It’s perhaps a form of ambition, I admit, when you always shoot the highest you can. Anyway, I don’t really see a reasonable mean to shoot your gun lower than you are able to, as I can’t find justification to deny incredible achievements that everybody can reach. What you perceive as a risk is a mixture of fears, insecurities, lack of faith. When you have certainty and your self-esteem is high, your perception will change and all fears vanish.

More you adventure out of the cage, more you taste the freedom of this wilderness, more you get used to take what you consider challenging. It’s like the poison the ancient Greek took in small quantities everyday to get immunized. In the same way you should try to rise your head and look at your surroundings, taking little challenges, everyday. When you will break the chain that enslaves you, finally that closet will be empty, and your life full of wonderful possibilitiesJ